Of Loving, Losing and Letting Go

 

Of Loving, Losing, and Letting Go

"Don't cry because it is over; smile because it happened".

How many of us have gone through falling in love and falling out of love? It's such a bitter-sweet feeling that nobody can't deny it. In the span of our lifetime, how many times did we fall in love, fall out of love, fall in love again, and get our hearts broken for the nth time? Yet, we repeatedly go through that vicious cycle, intentional or not. We only stop looking for love or evading love when we stop breathing. It's just like air...it's always there even though at times we don't see it.

Is it really better to love and get hurt than never to have loved at all? Are there really rules or guidelines to make love stay? Is it something real or just make-believe? Why does love encompass all kinds of feelings? It's happiness and sadness...it's trial and error...it's a gamble.

When we are too hurt after a failed relationship, we oftentimes swear not to fall in love again until unknowingly, love comes knocking at our doors again. Some would be too stubborn to accept it back while others welcome it with open arms. Then the cycle begins...again. All of a sudden, you find yourself in euphoria. It's like having angel wings and everything is perfectly right. You swear to yourself this will be the last and you'll move heaven and earth to make it work. Somehow it changes you. You feel you're becoming a better person, so awe-inspired, everything is like a bed of roses. Your outlook in life is oh-so pleasant. You fall in love with love itself. Then something happens along the way...things get out of hand and you lose control. Suddenly, your world becomes topsy-turvy...the happiness you once felt has changed to emptiness, sometimes, even remorse and hate. Then you cry buckets and buckets of tears enough to grow an oasis in the middle of the desert. You ask yourself what went wrong...why it happened...how are you going to cope with the situation. So many unanswered questions and sleepless nights of assessing and re-assessing. If you're not strong enough, things can even go out of hand.

Although we all go through heartaches and heartbreaks differently, all of us feel bad, one way or another, whatever the degree is. We may have resentments. We may blame ourselves or our partners, but after all this hoopla, we must accept things as it is and hope against hope that we can go through life again.

Love, after all, is a wondrous feeling. No matter what the results of love are, it's still a feeling we all should experience even for just a minute in our life. Love may leave us broken and tattered - yet, it only makes us more human. It can give us pain, but it certainly can also provide us with sheer happiness. It makes us better and stronger people.

Just like the grass that is stepped on...it grows back stronger than before. Yes, it really is better to love...although you might lose it in the end...still, it's better than never to have loved at all.